Traveling solo through Europe is equal parts thrilling and nerve-wracking—especially when you’re someone like me, a little introverted, a little cautious, and yet secretly craving good conversation and meaningful connections. I used to imagine that solo travel would be quiet and reflective, filled with long walks, journaling, and solo dinners. And yes, there’s plenty of that. But I’ve also learned something else: connection doesn’t have to be loud, extroverted, or forced. It can be quiet and easy, like a conversation over coffee or sharing a laugh on a walking tour.

Here’s what I talk to myself about when I’m traveling alone in Europe—and how I gently nudge myself out of my shell to meet people along the way.

1. “Hostels aren’t just for 20-year-olds with backpacks.”

Before my first solo trip, I had this outdated mental image of hostels being rowdy party zones. But staying in one—even if just in a private room—changed everything. Hostels are built for connection. Whether it’s someone in your dorm or someone sitting across from you in the shared kitchen, people there want to connect. I remind myself: everyone else is traveling solo too, or in small groups, and they’re just as open to conversation as I am. That common ground is powerful.

Tip to self: Book a hostel with good reviews about its social atmosphere—not the party ones if that’s not your vibe, but the cozy, friendly ones where conversations start naturally.

2. “You don’t have to be the life of the party—just ask a question.”

I’m not the kind to walk into a bar and instantly make friends. But I’ve learned that asking a question is often all it takes to open a door. “Where are you from?” “Have you done this tour before?” “Do you know a good place for lunch around here?” These simple questions can spark a conversation that leads to an afternoon of exploration or a night of swapping stories.

Places where this works:

• Group walking or food tours

• Local cafés or bars (especially ones not packed with tourists)

• Talking to hostel staff or fellow travelers in common areas

• Casual classes (think: pasta-making in Italy or flamenco in Spain)

3. “It’s okay to enjoy your own company, too.”

Sometimes I feel pressure to always be meeting people. But solo travel is also about reconnecting with myself. If I spend a whole day wandering a city alone, stopping to take photos or enjoy a long lunch with a book, that’s okay. That’s beautiful. I try not to guilt myself for not constantly being social.

Still, if I’m craving connection, I nudge myself toward the right spaces—walking tours, cooking classes, even local co-working cafés where other travelers hang out.

4. “Small group tours are your secret weapon.”

I used to shy away from tours because I didn’t want to feel like a tourist. But small group tours? They’re gold. Spend a whole day with 8–12 people, and you’ll naturally chat during the bus rides, the food stops, the downtime. I’ve had some of my most genuine travel conversations during wine tastings in France and castle tours in Germany.

Bonus tip: Look for full-day or half-day tours with meals included—there’s something about sharing food that makes people open up.

5. “Locals are curious about you, too.”

It surprised me how often locals wanted to talk—especially in smaller towns or non-touristy bars. Bartenders, café owners, market vendors—they’re not just there to serve; they often want to know where you’re from and what brought you to their town. I’ve had some amazing local tips come from asking, “Where would you eat if you were me?”

Pro move: Ask for a local bar or restaurant recommendation, then actually go there. Chances are, you’ll get a follow-up question like “Did you like it?”—and just like that, you’re part of the community.

6. “Not every moment needs a friend—but every moment is a chance for one.”

Solo travel in Europe has taught me this: you don’t need to have company to have a great time, but if you stay open—even just a little—the world will meet you halfway. Whether it’s over a glass of wine in Lisbon or a mountain hike outside Innsbruck, connection finds you when you’re not trying too hard.

And sometimes, the most important conversations are the ones you have with yourself.

Final Thoughts

If you’re introverted but curious, cautious but open, solo travel can be one of the most rewarding things you’ll ever do. You’ll learn to befriend yourself—and in the process, you just might find connection in the most unexpected places.

Still nervous? Start small. Stay in a social hostel. Book one food tour. Say “hi” to one fellow traveler. The rest will come naturally.